Real talk for Wednesday 💛
Hi! I keep noticing that people reach out to me and ask if I'm open to a hookup in the very first message. And generally, that's completely fine – everyone is allowed to express their desires and ideas openly.
However, I sometimes wonder if in such requests, the person behind them is still being seen. Is it really only about one's own needs, or is there also an interest in the person with whom one wants to share something intimate?
I'm aware that some people don't need sympathy or a deeper connection for that. That's their decision. For me personally, however, something so intimate also involves a certain feeling, mutual interest, and a human approach. If it's exclusively about physical needs, there are other possibilities.
That's why I'd like to ask you to refrain from such direct requests with me. I don't want to primarily advertise for meetings here, but for honest encounters where you talk to each other first, get to know each other, and see if the chemistry is right – just like you would in real life. Or? I think one understands that?
I'm not complicated and don't expect big promises. But I think one should give a person at least the chance to get to know them before directly falling into the breach. For me, that also has something to do with respect and honesty. Because I believe we shouldn't lose our humanity…
You want honest answers and know where you stand with me? Then you're in the right place. I say openly what I think and don't pretend anything to anyone. Because for me, it's not just about what happens between two people, but also about how they treat each other.
